As an animal communicator, I assist animals and their humans at all stages of the pet’s life, including when they “die.”
You may be wondering why I place quotation marks around the verb die. In Annie Land (and for many other folks, too), I believe that only the body wears out and stops. The soul energy lives on until who the heck knows when–eternity, however long that is, and it is the animal’s soul energy with whom I communicate and reunite with their family. For easier reading in the rest of this blog, I will refer to the animals as being departed.
Guilt. That right there is the emotion you really need to focus on releasing when your pet departs (or any other loved one, for that matter.) When I speak with folks who are considering using my service to communicate with their pet in the Spirit realm, often they want to ask their friend to forgive them for whatever they feel they did wrong, particularly toward the end of the animal’s life. Frequently, they are experiencing excruciating turmoil and guilt.
Some people go way overboard beating themselves up. I am here to tell you, that is ABSOLUTELY the last thing your pet wants you to dwell on! Animals typically focus more on the joy of the life they just lived, not that you feel you may have waited too long to euthanize them. I have been communicating with animals since 2009, and I have only one time had an animal tell me that they wish their human would have euthanized them sooner. The message they relay the most is that their human did everything right, and that they appreciate the excellent care and love.
We do our best for our animal friends, and our best is all that we can do. Most people can’t communicate with their animals they way professional communicators do. That makes it way more challenging to discern what your friend is feeling or needs. There is something critically vital to remember here: as their human, you are intimately connected energetically with them in a way that I will never be. You are their mom or dad, their beloved best friend, who spends as much time as you can with them. That bond creates a communication link that only you two have. You instinctively, intuitively, know what they need. I hear this time, and time, again from many dogs and cats.
If you know you really did unknowingly somehow act in a way which worsened your pet’s suffering, please forgive yourself. Grieve that, learn the lesson from it, and move on. I, too, have acted in ways with my pets that make me cringe–feeding my dog unhealthy people food that I feel later greatly contributed to her diabetes. I was too grief stricken to tolerate being in the room with her when she was euthanized, and Kubi Ann died in the arms of her vet–not mine. 😦 I now know how much that means to animals to be with their human as their breathe their last, and I hate that I wasn’t in the room with her.
It is distressing to the animal when their human’s guilt is an all-encompassing morass from which they can’t break free. If you are upset to the point that you are having difficulty with your ADLs (activities of daily life; eating, sleeping, working, etc), a conversation with me and your departed pet may be comforting. A professional counselor can also work wonders. Your pet wants you to grieve as you need, not torment yourself, and go on to love another animal. Your pet also wants you to cherish the memories of the fun and laughter, all the good times, you shared. That’s all they want from you at this stage of their existence.
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We lost our beloved dog a few years ago. I still think about him from time to time. One of my biggest regrets is not always showing him the love he deserved after my 2 children were born. And there were times when I was frustrate – I know I took this out on him by being mean, short and dismissive. But Blue, I miss you and I love you pal. You were truly the best dog.
Karla, I am sure that Blue knows that is how you feel.