Mine mother is a very intelligent woman who also possesses a plethora of common sense. When I was a babbling twenty-something in the throes of a wretched romance, I called Mumsy for an opinion. I was stymied about how to deal with the situation–sometimes my guy was nifty, other times, he was shifty. And shitty. I will always remember what she told me:
“IF YOU ARE HAPPIER WHEN YOU ARE WITH HIM, STAY WITH HIM. IF YOU ARE HAPPIER WHEN YOU AREN’T, THEN LEAVE HIM.”
That was a game changer! I promptly gave Mr. Nifty, Shifty and Shitty the boot. For the rest of my days, I have continued to use this phrase to determine my course of action in any number of situations. Should I pursue a new career path? Apply the above quote, and take it from there. Should I change out of this oh so stylish and debonair outfit because it highlights my abundant caboose-and I’m attending a business event (where I would rather everyone not be transfixed by my booty) ? Again, using that same old criteria, I can easily decide.
I felt compelled to share this with you today, dear Reader, because making decisions is often a bitch. We vacillate between this option and that one, wailing and gnashing teeth because WE JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO! This has made my life easier, and I hope it can for you too.
And how to apply that nugget of wisdom if you haven’t been in the situation you are required to make a decision about? Imagine yourself in that scenario-smell, see, listen to the sights and sounds of your vision. How do you feel? Is your tummy joyous and light, or cranky and constricted? Does following this path provide joy juice, or a heaping dose of the blahs?
What is the best advice your mumsy ever bestowed to you? Please share it!